How Porn Actually Affects Your Relationship (According To Science)

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How Porn Actually Affects Your Relationship (According To Science)

How Porn Actually Affects Your Relationship

Mutual trust for each other is the foundation of any relationship. A couple who doubt each other will most likely break up sooner or later. Lately, one of the most common problems in relationships seems to be due to porn. To be specific, the problem lies in the fact that one partner watches porn without the other one knowing about it. It’s become more of a widespread issue due to the increased accessibility of free porn. Most people can access pornographic material virtually anywhere and anytime for free, as long as they have an internet connection and a smart phone. 

 

The main reason why this presents a problem in any relationship is that there is a sense of betrayal involved, almost as if the partner watching porn is cheating on his or her significant other. This strains the trust that keeps all relationships strong, since it’s technically keeping an intimate secret from your partner. When couples start to keep these kinds of secrets from each other, it can snowball to larger and more hurtful lies. Eventually, the ties of trust and faith that once kept the bond strong gets severed.

 

However, that’s not always the case. Some couples have no problems with their significant other having a bit of naughty fun every now and then, as long as their own sexual desires are met. But that is the few against the many, since watching porn in secret causes problems in nearly all relationships.

 

The problems that watching porn usually causes are the following:

  • decrease in sexual drive and attraction towards one of the partners
  • dissatisfaction with sex
  • decrease in overall trust between partners

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Generally, continued exposure to porn tends to decrease sexual gratification in a relationship and doubles the chances of a couple breaking up or getting divorced within the next four years.

 

Oddly enough, there seems to be a consistent difference of how porn affects a relationship depending on the viewer being the man or the woman.  When the man is the one secretly watching porn videos, the negative effects are more prevalent. However, if the viewer is the woman, it can even help strengthen the relationship (at least its sexual side).

 How Porn Actually Affects Your Relationship

This is probably due to the fact that men see a woman viewing porn as incredibly attractive, since she is most usually open to more “creative” sexual practices. Unsurprisingly, most women see their boyfriends or husbands as unsatisfied in their relationship whenever they watch porn. They most likely feel that they are not enough, and that their partners have to rely on watching these videos to satisfy their sexual desires.

 

One thing that is common for all parties involved is that whether watching porn is a form of cheating is solely up to the opinion of the couples in these relationships. If for example, the woman is completely satisfied and her sexual needs are met, she might be okay with her lover watching porn. He might even get some ideas on how to better please his woman. But these kinds of cases are a drop of oil in the middle of the ocean.

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In sum, watching porn is not inherently bad for a relationship. In fact, one could argue that the pornographic material itself has nothing to do with the problems that this act can cause. It is the trust that is tested and broken that really causes most relationships to fall apart. If there is honesty and proper conveyance of wants and desires, and secrets are limited to birthday and anniversary surprises, any relationship can work. Be it if it’s one with tons of pornography or one that’s completely devoid of it.